Episode Details
January 31, 2025
42 minutes
- The Art of Saying No – Doug struggles with saying no but learns how it enhances his ability to be fully present in different areas of life.
- Learning to Set Work Boundaries – Doug initially took on extra tasks outside his role but now understands the importance of saying no.
- Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies – Doug acknowledges his people-pleasing nature and works on improving his ability to set limits.
- Company Culture & Client Fit – Jeremy incorporates the practice of saying no into Fluent Conveyors' culture to ensure they work with the right clients.
- Setting Boundaries at Work & Home – Jeremy encourages his team to set boundaries with him and is also implementing boundaries with his family.
- A Simple Phrase for Saying No – Doug’s wife shares a helpful way to decline commitments: “I can’t commit to that right now.”
Featured Quotes
"Setting boundaries is not just about saying no to others; it's about saying yes to yourself and your priorities."
Jeremy Axel
"I’ve learned that saying no requires maturity, and it’s okay to not be everything to everyone"
Doug Cox
Episode Transcript And Overview
Do you know how to say no? Whether you’re committing to spend time with a friend or committing to a new client, sticking to your commitments shows integrity. Overcommitting, as tempting as it can be for people pleasers like Doug, is a great way to let people down when you inevitably don’t have the time you said you did. It’s also a great way to burn yourself out. In this episode, Doug and Jeremy talk about their boundaries and share tips to help you set your own.
YouTube
you’re committing to spend time with a friend or committing to a new client, sticking to your commitments shows integrity. Overcommitting, as tempting as it can be for people pleasers like Doug, is a great way to let people down when you inevitably don’t have the time you said you did. In this episode, Doug and Jeremy talk about their boundaries and share tips to help you set your own.
Reels
Reel 1
Do you have clear boundaries? And if you do, do you stick to them? In this episode of Never in Reverse, Doug and Jeremy discuss their boundaries (or lack thereof) and give you tips to set your own. #boundaries #growth #neverinreverse
Reel 2
Saying no is an art – it is deceptively difficult, especially if you’re a people pleaser. On Never in Reverse, Doug and Jeremy are putting humanity back into social media and work culture. Listen wherever you get your podcasts. #boundaries #growth #neverinreverse
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You can’t push a string. We all sometimes find ourselves trying to get things out of people that they are not willing or able to give, and sometimes the best decision is to move past those people. Learn more on this episode of Never in Reverse. #boundaries #growth #neverinreverse
Timeline Notes
Today’s episode is about the art of saying no – something that Doug struggles with. Learning how to say no can enhance your life by helping you choose where you spend your time so you can be fully present at work, at home, and with yourself.
When Doug began working with Jeremy, he was doing work that fell outside of his role because he believed he had to. He has since learned that saying no requires maturity, and he has gained a familiarity with his work that has allowed him to understand his limitations.
Doug knows that he is a people pleaser. He finds it difficult to say no to people because he does not want to let them down. He has improved at this recently, but there is still room for more growth.
Jeremy has built the art of saying no into the culture at Fluent Conveyors, particularly as it applies to clients who are not a good fit.
When something is on your mind, it can be tempting to work on it before you forget. Jeremy sometimes texts and emails people at odd hours, and he is encouraging his team to set their own boundaries with him.
Jeremy is also setting boundaries at home with his family, and his wife is setting boundaries with him. This helps him make time for himself and be fully present when he is with his family.
Doug and Jeremy discuss a recent time when Doug was sick and put pressure on himself to continue working. Jeremy encouraged him to take time for himself.
Doug’s wife has a useful saying that you can put in your tool bag: “I can’t commit to that right now.” It isn’t an outright no, but it allows you the space to say no if you are too busy to commit with certainty.
